The Finger Burn that Showed Me Love, Struggle, and Growth

Photo by La Dolce Vita Diary

I burned three fingers from a tea kettle while I was boiling hot water. The finger that got impacted the most was my ring finger, the one where I wear an engagement ring. I chose to look at this as a new beginning. My fiancé and I started our engagement courtship on rocky grounds. Even though we knew each other for over 20 years and dated for several of those years, we didn’t know each other intimately. No one really does until they spend a lot of time with each other.

Then as a couple in love, when you’re seriously planning to spend the rest of your lives together, there’s a shift inside our mind and bodies, where a switch turns on overnight that seems to appear out of the air. It’s characterized by starting to have arguments or disagreements.

Then it becomes circumstances dealing with each other’s inner selves underneath the mask you see when you’re dating. It’s almost like reality just kicked in, that this could be the person you will want to make decisions with for the rest of your life, so we better get on the same page on things that really matter to us. And your partner is thinking the same thing.

We then wrestle with one another, trying to dominate and negotiate the other in thought and consequences on these matters. These matters could be on thousands of topics, including habits…